By Caroline Ferguson | Procrastination
What’s the #2 mindset problem experienced by intelligent women? I’ve been inviting entrepreneurial women to take part in a survey recently. I want to know which mindset blocks and unhelpful thoughts, emotions and habits are getting in the way of you delivering what you’re capable of. And I discovered that one of the biggest problem entrepreneurs […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Mindset optimisation series
MY NAME IS CAROLINE FERGUSON AND I’M AN OPTIREALIMIST. Someone asked me this morning whether I’m an optimist or a pessimist. Oh dear, light the blue touchpaper and stand clear… I used to be a card-carrying pessimist. There, I’ve said it. For a long time, I embraced pessimism on the basis that if you expect […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Demands
We’re all into “mindset musturbation” – yes, even you. The news of Dr Wayne Dyer’s passing sent me to Google and it wasn’t long before I bumped into mention of the influence of psychologist Albert Ellis on Dr Dyer’s work. Ellis was the father of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) and is one of my personal heroes. […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Self worth
There are plenty of remedies out there for repairing low self worth. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that many of them don’t work in the long term. Why don’t they work? Because to fix a problem, you need to deal with the CAUSE, rather than the end result. And feeling bad […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Mindset optimisation series
Do you have a mindset self care routine? Recently I found a business card tucked into my wallet from a woman I met at a networking event a few months ago. She’s making waves in the online business world. On the back of the card I’d written, “mindset self care”. Hmmm… I threw my mind back […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Mindset optimisation series , Self Talk
At a networking do yesterday, I proved to the person sitting next to me that her unconscious mind can’t tell the difference between an experience that’s real and one that’s vividly imagined. She experienced an autonomic physical response to an entirely imaginary scenario that I described. Just by vividly imagining biting into a lemon, she salivated. Her […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Mindset optimisation series , Negative emotions
Have you ever heard yourself say, “She made me angry”, or “He made me feel like a failure”? We all do it – ascribe out hurt feelings to other people’s words and action. But the fact is, no-one can MAKE you feel anything. Yes, other people may ‘trigger’ you, and yes, it’s natural to feel upset […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Procrastination
“What is important is seldom urgent and what is urgent is seldom important.”(Dwight Eisenhower) I’ve been as guilty as anyone when it comes to ‘busy-ness’ – where we end up running on the spot with a to do list as long as both legs. I’m learning to kick that habit now by focusing on The […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Acceptance , Mindset optimisation series
Coaches and therapists often talk about the need for ‘acceptance’, but often we resist. I was talking to a client this morning about how helpful it is to take an ‘accepting’ view – of ourselves, of others, of things that happen and of situations in which we find ourselves. She said, “But I can’t accept the […]
By Caroline Ferguson | Acceptance , Mindset optimisation series
I came across this tiny jewel of a video on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday. It’s only a few minutes long, but my goodness, the message it contains could change the world. Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh says listening can help end the suffering of an individual, put an end to war and change the world […]