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Mostly I referred to the negative, self-doubting and self-critical thoughts that we all have from time to time. But it’s also enlightening to notice when the voice in your head is more helpful and realistic.
When you notice these more helpful and constructive thoughts, focus on them and make a point of actively feeling pleased. Make a note of them, and the situation that triggered them.
Your unconscious mind will notice the extra attention you’re focusing on this kind of self talk, and the positive emotions you felt when you noticed the way you were thinking. It may well try to generate more of this kind of helpful self talk in future.
Part 2 of my 3-point plan to retune your inner radio is to CHALLENGE unhelpful thoughts.
By challenging long held assumptions about yourself, many of which you may have absorbed from others, you can start to unravel these false stories and get at the REAL truth.
Which is that you are a worthwhile human being, complete with strengths and weaknesses and limitless potential.
When you notice that the content or tone of voice of your self talk is negative, critical, self-limiting or self-doubting, stop and ask yourself these questions:
At this point, don’t consciously try to come up with an alternative way to think in these situations (I’ll be tackling that tomorrow). You may find, though, that when you challenge your thoughts, your mind automatically proposes solutions.
Asking yourself these questions sends a clear message to your unconscious mind that habitual negative or self-damning thoughts are not constructive.
If you keep interrupting your self talk when it’s unhelpful, and challenging it, within a relatively short space of time you can start to see a change in the way you think.
The point of this exercise is to become more self-accepting and supportive of yourself. When you realise the extent to which you’ve been getting in your own way, it’s not uncommon to start berating yourself for being self-damning.
To avoid falling into this trap, aim to challenge yourself in a curious, non-judgemental way.
TASK: Keep tuning in to your thoughts and challenge them whenever you catch yourself falling back into the critical thinking habit. Make a note of the thoughts in your Mindset Journal. Connect with your emotions and describe how confronting negative thoughts makes you feel.
In step 3, coming soon, I’ll cover the final part of this series, which is how to think in a more constructive and helpful way. Stay tuned.
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Caroline is a Mindset Trainer and speaker who works with sensitive, high-potential leaders who know they were born for something more. She shows them how to beat mindset blocks and habits, such as limiting beliefs, low self worth and procrastination, that are preventing them from making a bigger impact.
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